I feel that this caused me to not get the help that I needed with the program as I progressed.
I went through a program that helped people with disabilities find employment. But it was unclear as to what disabilities they worked with ( eg dyslexia, speech issues, etc) My mom had signed me up, at least she called the place. She thought they would send me a referral of some sort. After not hearing or getting anything, she called the place back and they told her I had to meet with someone. My mom has records of my autism, however, she gave most of the records to social security when we applied back in 2016. Which is why you ALWAYS make copies of your things. This happened in 2017 but I was not blogging at that time or into making autism content.
My mom gave the lady the records that we still had. I told her I have autism and the job settings I needed. She looked at my records and had the audacity to tell me I wasn't autistic because of 'how I talked.' What the hell does that mean? She also thinks I am not autistic because I have a high IQ. People are ignorant and stupid. Autism does not affect how smart you are. It affects how you learn. It affects your ability to detect social cues and what to do in social situations. A person with autism just needs a different method of learning.
When I told her the settings I needed, she refused to listen. I told her I need something where I don't have to deal with people for anxiety reasons and because my social abilities are compromised and she saw it as 'being anti-social.' Autistics prefer jobs where they do not have to talk to anyone because of their lack of social skills and because ASD people are targets of being bullied. We prefer jobs where we don't have to talk to anyone because we feel like outsiders, we don't understand the social norm. Nothing to do with being anti-social.
When the lady told me if I got a job, they'd hold my paycheck for a month, I got upset and she said I am 'being negative.' Stupid lady. What? You expect someone to be happy if you tell them they won't get paid for X amount of time?! Nobody wants to do crap in this world and not get paid. She thought because I can socialize I am not autistic. It's more than that. Most autistics cannot read body language, tones, etc. Like when I went to the gym and the guy at the desk greeted us and I responded. To me, I didn't sound harsh, I couldn't pick up how my tone would sound to someone else, but my tone intimidated the guy. Autism is so misunderstood that people don't dig deeper. So yeah I can walk up and say hi, but I would not pick up if my tone sounds intimidating to someone.
Most people with autism aren't aware of their actions at times. This lady failed to understand that autism is more than just having issues socializing. Just because we can talk to someone doesn't mean anything. You don't know other issues we may face.
Don't be ignorant, be understanding. No one with a disability will be the same. This is why education is important. It's not to shove it down your throat, it's to teach you that there are more struggles with autism that meets the eye. This is probably why autistics struggle in a neurotypical world. People invalidate us because we may have different hurdles than someone else. Employers don't wanna give us a chance because we're different or fire us just because our disorder makes it hard to do the job rather than creating an alternative. I am never going back to that place again. I am not mentioning the company to avoid being sued for slander. All I will say is they assist disabled people with finding employment. But they do not assist autistic adults nor do they work with enough to understand. Autistic adults struggle with employment 2x harder than someone with a different disorder. You can tell the employer you're dyslexic and they will give you your tasks vocally. Tell an employer you're autistic and you will either be fired, harassed or have your hours/days cut.
I made a video about this as well, check that out if you'd like. This is why I started this blog and started talking about autism on my YouTube. Ignorance causes folks with disabilities even more issues down the line.